29
Mar

Every girl has an ex boyfriend she has stayed connected with as friends or buds.  A certain number of these girls will decide that they want to get back together with one of their exes.

For many girls this could  be a short period of time, like a few weeks or months. For others it might be after a long period of time – 4 months to a year.

The first thing is that it’s extremely  important to think about the big picture regarding your situation. This will really help you understand your honest and real chances of getting back together with ex boyfriends.

Here are some tips to help.

Why Did You Really Break Up ? (Hint: Dig real deep!)

Think about the true reasons you broke up with him… Was it your fault, or his fault? If you did something extreme or stupid that ended your relationship the chances of getting back with your ex will be small, I’ll be honest with you. But it can be done, so never be discouraged. OK?

If they were the one who screwed up, your chances will be substantially improved. If the break up was mutual, it’s tough to know how your break up will affect your chances for getting back with him.

How Have You Behaved Since Then ?

Some people act very oddly or differently after a break up.  Others will  ignore their exes completely.  Some will  “show the other” that they can pull a new partner no problem. Still others will remain friends.

Then of course there are those who behave like real jerks toward their exes…

Think about how you have behaved since the break up and how your ex has behaved since then. This will help you better understand your real chances of getting back together.

Did You Give Your Boyfriend The Space He Needs To Love You Again ?

Guys sometimes just need their space. One of the most difficult things you can do after a break up is give him and yourself some room to breathe.

Did you give your boyfriend some time and space after you broke up? If you did not, however, your chances may be low. Think about what you did, and how long ago the relationship was. If you did, your chances of getting back together with him are substantially improved.

What Is Your Real Situation With Your Ex Boyfriend ?

Are you in a place right now, psychologically and emotionally, where you can even have a boyfriend? Even if he’s a prince, you may not be ready.

How long has it been since your last BF?? Your ex may see your situation as scary and think you can’t handle a relationship with him again. This could be your wake up call that you’re not ready for a boyfriend just yet.

How About Your Ex BF’s Sitch?

You need to think about his situation as well… When was his last relationship? How many girls and for how long? Don’t obsess over this, just use the information to formulate your “get him back” strategy.

Are they currently in a relationship? Is he the type of person who always needs to have a girlfriend? Or does he have an independent side? This will help you to understand his core thinking about women and whether or not he would even entertain getting back together with you.

These are all simple questions that will give you the insight that you need.

If you want to understand your real chances of getting back with ex an boyfriend, you need to think about how you’ve behaved…

Did you give them space? Have you acted kindly? What are you prepared to do? The answers to these and other questions will affect and help you understand your TRUE chances of getting back together with your ex.

Good luck with your situation! ~

Posted by: Sophia Martin

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24
Mar

Simple Tips for Getting Your Ex Back

You and your ex have broken up and you now want to get back together.

Unfortunately, getting back together after a break up isn’t as simple as following a roadmap and doing all the proper things.

Sometimes you can do everything right – but still not get back together with the person you love and care about.

Nevertheless, there are several important actions you can take right now to help you get back together after breaking up. These tactics  have a good track record of success.

Keep in mind they don’t succeed every time because people are unique creatures, and things aren’t going to work the same way for everyone.

FYI, the tips below provide additional benefits that are simply good for you as well as for your ex. Even if this relationship advice doesn’t work in your situation, it will typically improve your relationship i.e. friendship. This can help you build some confidence and gain self respect as well as help your ex feel respected and cared about.

The first thing is to always treat your ex with as much respect and understanding as possible. Remember when you first met and started dating how you treated him or her. Compare this to how you’ve been treating them lately… and treating them just before your breakup? Think about it.

As a general rule, I have found the longer you are with somebody  the less polite you become, the more you take for granted and the more you end up disrespecting them. Revert back to that “kind person” you were at the start of your relationship. That will force them to recall how much they liked being with you when you were together.

Secondly, you must respect your ex’s personal space. If they initiated the break up, then texting and or emailing them constantly is going to make you look desperate! If it was a mutual break up and you’ve determined you wish to get back together, simply explain to them calmly how you feel. Be reasonable. Once they know you want them back, constantly reminding them is going to drive them away from you.

When you see your ex, be respectful. Be nice. Act affectionate but don’t overdo it. If the subject of getting back together happens to arise just express yourself honestly and politely.

If they know you want to get back together after the break up,  do not hound them. Usually, giving somebody the breathing space they need helps them recognize how much they actually miss having you around.

You should be genuinely thoughtful about THEM.
Instead of bringing up how much you want them back every time you talk or see each other, home in on their needs for a change. Ask if they need something or if there’s anything you can help them out with. Remember don’t mention anything about getting back together (unless they do first).

This relationship advice might not seem effective at speeding up getting back together after a break up, and it doesn’t always yield quick results. Just take your time… your ex’s feelings toward you and attitude about you will more than likely change.

These are all important steps to getting back together after breaking up. And as I mentioned earlier, even if you don’t get back together again you and your ex may have a new appreciation for each other.

This will make you feel good about yourself, improve your confidence and help you succeed in your next relationship.

Good Luck to you! Feel free to come back and post your feedback on this blog. I and my broken heart blog readers would love to hear from you.

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Posted by Sophia Martin

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